Read More: When One Wants Sex and the Other Doesn’t. TIME.ĭo I continue to close my eyes and endure that 30 minutes once a week to enjoy the other 99 percent of my life? He does not take testosterone or engage in porn he just wants sex with me. If I bring it up, he immediately says that if we don’t have sex, we should divorce. The thing is, other than sex, I love spending time with my husband we get along well and enjoy each other’s company.
(I had no family support, no money, a lack of self-esteem, and young children.) But I’m now 60, with some physical issues starting to crop up. Finally, several years ago, I decided to keep the relationship and family intact by agreeing to sex once a week. We went to therapy, but that didn’t help. At first I was a willing participant, but after years of his moping, cajoling, screaming, and disrespect, I lost interest. I love my husband, but when it comes to sex, he has been, and still is, a 14-year-old boy.
Yesterday, we published the third most-read story. Our Answer Queen, Cathi Hanauer, offers a smart, compassionate contemplation of the role of sex within a marriage and what spouses should and shouldn’t be willing to do for each other. This story came in second, with 383,000 readers. Editor’s Note: As we mark our Fifth Anniversary, we went back to look at our most-read stories since we launched in February 2017.
